The Fine Hair Friendly Wash And Go

Me and wash and gos have NEVER got along! I thought I had done everything right; watch the YouTubers, follow the hair gurus, experiment with different hair products…NONE 👏🏾OF 👏🏾IT 👏🏾WORKED👏🏾 So I gave up! I threw in the towel (or the old cotton t-shirt if you’re a natralista). I walked away from wash and gos and didn’t look back.

One of my many Wash N Go fails 😒

My problem was, I didn’t believe I had wash and go hair. It just wasn’t a style that had ever fully cooperated with me. Well, now all that has changed and I am writing this blog to help anyone out there with similar hair that has given up on or considering giving up on wash and gos for themselves.

Everyone’s hair is so different and responds in such different ways, but maybe this technique will help you out and give you the wash and go you’ve been hoping for. Before I jump in to how I got the curls, let me give some insight on what my hair is like. **And side note, my stretch method DOES involve heat**

I have finer hair strands. My hair likes to hold onto water which causes it to super shrink up and can be annoying to get my stretched looks. My hair is heat trained so I don’t experience heat damage. My curl pattern is about a 3c.

I wanted to give that info in hopes of helping anyone else that might be the same type of hair. Now I’m going to list a step by step guide with pics on what and how I did it. Let’s jump in 😬😬

1. You want to start off with clean, detangled, curly very wet hair. I had used Tgin cleansing shampoo followed by a deep conditioning treatment and got my hair to the basic starting point.

2. You’ll want to section your hair just like you would to put them in chunky twists. I had 7 sections total when I was done (4 in the back, 1 on the front right, 2 on the front left) Grab a section of hair and take a spray bottle of water and leave in conditioner and spritz the hair throughout.

**I used Design Essentials Leave In Conditioner and mixed roughly 1-2tbs with a full spray bottle of water. Basically when you mix you want it to look cloudy**

I use this to comb product into my hair

3. Then you’ll want to take a good amount of foaming mousse (I used Design Essentials Curl Enhancing Mousse) and finger rake or comb in through the same section of hair until the curls are very defined and poppin. Make sure and mousse your edges and ends very very well!!

4. This step is the key to how I finally got lasting definition! Once the section is defined and curly, do a chunky 2 strand twist all the way to the ends of the hair. I flat twisted the front sections of my hair to make sure I would get really great definition since those areas tend to want to frizz up on me.

5. Repeat steps 2-4 until you’ve twisted all your hair.

6. Let your hair air dry as much as possible. I let mine dry over night. When I took out the twists, it was still a little damp, but that’s ok because the stretching method I used allowed for a blow dryer.

7. Stretch and dry each section of hair using a blow dryer with a focused attachment. I like this video from NaturalReign and found that even though my hair is different, it worked very nicely for me as well.

Look at the length difference AND definition 🙌🏾

8. Take a pick (I put argan oil on mine) and gently fluff and extend the hair.

9. Enjoy your flexible POPPIN curls!

My hair is having a party and you’re all invited 🥳

There you have it! Not only are my curls defined, they are flexible! I hope this has been helpful!! Try it out and lemme know if it works! Byyyyyyeeeeee 😬

Case In Review: A Real Fake

“Real recognize real and you lookin’ unfamiliar” 👀

Being on Poshmark as long as I have, I’ve encountered all kinds of issues; some on the sellers side, and more recently some on the buyers side. This is a first for me. I was sold a pair of counterfeit Converse!!! But what’s even more alarming is the fact that these fakes were some of the BEST counterfeits I’ve ever seen. In the feature photo, one of those sneakers ain’t legit…can you tell which one? Get ready y’all, here comes the whole story on the entire experience.

(**The shoe on the right is the real Converse All Star**)

I know what you might be thinking…me being a fashion enthusiast it’s like kinda a thing to be able to identify fake merch, so how did something slip past ole Kim?????? Honestly, it wasn’t until I purchased the real Converse that I was even able to for certain know without a doubt the ones purchased from Poshmark were not real.

It went something like this…I was looking for a pair of classic all white Converse. I had just put 2 pairs up for sale and had high hopes that I could find a fairly clean/newish pair for a decent price to replace the ones I was getting rid of. When I went scouting, I marked my likes to see what offers I might get. The general price range seemed to be $35-55. I also wasn’t seeing very many options for my size and a couple pairs at that, so I waited a few days to see if anything else would show up.

Then by chance, someone was listing a brand new pair with the box for $25!! Now at this point you might be lookin blank face at me like “Kim really??? That’s too good to be true” and it was, however in my defense, I’ve gotten deals on Posh on AMAZING stuff that is authentic with a too good to be true price as well, soooooooooo yeah, I wasn’t too shocked that someone might have been trying to get rid of a gift they didn’t need *shrugs.

I skimmed over the pictures and everything looked decent. The Converse box looked exactly like the one I had for my own authentic retail purchased red ones I had up for sale, logo was spot on, I’m telling you, nothing screamed out “fake” to me. But then they arrived and things just didn’t seem to add up.

Among the first noted issues, I couldn’t catch that rubber scent that is known with real Converse of this kind; in addition the weight seemed much too light. Real rubber is thick and heavy. I compared them with my own Converse and still couldn’t get a convincing read.

I started looking online and found some help. One of the Classic signs of an authentic pair is a star in the corner of the bottom of the shoe (which one pair had but the other seemed defective and only had what looked like a dot). I checked the stitching which was very clean except the most unnoticeable of spots on the lace holder on the tongue of the shoe. There were loose threads already and some of the stitch punch holes were just outside the sewn down fabric…just enough to look sloppy in comparison to the real ones.

Here is an example of how the font looked inconsistent between the counterfeit shoes as compared to the real ones. Check out how closely the inner stamp logo looks. The fake one has slightly more bold letters stating “Converse All Star”. The color is also off very slightly:

This was another slight variation, but where the rubber line is crooked on the fake one in comparison to the real one:

Patent stamp was wearing out already on the fake ones:

As mentioned before, real converse have a star on the top upper corner stamped very sharply into the shoe whereas the fake ones only had only a dot:

This was all very subtle and if I hadn’t investigated further, I would have probably kept them honestly thinking they were real. As a sneaker head at heart, I just know when something doesn’t feel/fit/look right.

Besides all this the overwhelming evidence in lack of rubber smell and odd lightness in weight of the fake ones, I had enough to back my theory. Needless to say, Poshmark sided with me and I was able to get a full refund.

After thinking more on the subject, I wondered if even the person selling them was in fact aware of the counterfeit product sitting in their closet? I was almost duped so I think it’s likely the person just did not know they were selling a fake.

I wrote this mostly to educate, but also to raise awareness to counterfeit goods. If you’re the type that wants to be absolutely sure your purchase on Posh is authentic, be sure and ask the seller, ask for more photos, investigate before hitting the “accept” button, and make sure to let Posh know if anything seems off.

Til next time,

Happy Poshing

A Moment Of Silence

Hi! Remember me? If not, allow me to reintroduce myself…My name is Aaaahhhh just kidding I won’t start this off like that 😭😂

Soooo, I decided to go offline on May 27. I stopped posting…I stopped scrolling… I just took a much needed break away from the screen to re-evaluate some things. It was so refreshingly necessary to have SPACE from the social media scene. Space to grieve over what I consider injustices. Space to sit quietly and listen to what was going on. Space to chew on what was said. Space to learn and educate myself. Space to enjoy my family. Space to think about life beyond the short term. Space to evaluate what I was putting into the public scene through my social networks and what my point even was.

I came to realize something; I enjoyed my time of less things to be concerned about. Minimizing my surroundings has given me better focus and drive to accomplish things I probably wouldn’t have before. I finally got some things in order. When I would think about if it was time to come back on, something would pull at me and say “not yet” so I kept not coming back yet…and I was cool with that.

Now I feel like the time might be appropriate. I believe I’m ready to be present in some kind of capacity, but definitely on a different pace. I don’t want to just show up and put something out there to be admired and passed on. I want to challenge myself to be brutally honest and cultivate more realness through my content.

Let me be clear, I still did me offline. I still cooked, I still Poshed, I still got out and kept adventurous…I just did it all from the backdrop of a black reflective screen with nothing to feel obligated to share. But now maybe I feel like sharing a little more.

I’d like to think I was missed. I hope I was missed at least a little if I’m honest. I know I missed engaging with you all so here it goes…

*And side note I haven’t been at this in like 10 months so please forgive my rustiness. Y’all know 10 months is like 10 years in social media time😝 Are hashtags still a thing???? Lol jk

JUNE

June was a fun month. We took my Buzzy Bee to the Fort Worth zoo for the first time (dark moment, but do you know how zoos operate?? Don’t make my mistake and google it yikes!) And then my little who (at the time was 8 mos old) decided to start walking! Talk about a jump in anxiety for me 😭.

In Posh world, I got sold a pair of fake converse! These were a decent pair of counterfeits too. I’ve got a whole write up on it on my blog if you’re into that kind of thing lol

During this month I also found a really cool black tv moms shirt that I always get compliments on.

JULY

July was a chill month. I wore my hair in wash n go styles, found an awesome recipe for pepperoni and thyme pizza that I added to my meal rotation and found a new way to shoot pix for my Posh closet.

AUGUST

August was adventurous. Me and the mister stepped out for the first time since Covid and took a much needed Dallas staycation at a nice boutique hotel near SMU. I’ll probably add that to the blog. It was super fun! And the place was like a desert so that made me feel safe and happy.

During August I had also started a redecorating project. See the thing was, when we moved into our home, the next month we immediately got prego with Buzzy Bee so I never got the opportunity to decorate completely. 4 years later, I’m getting the chance. It’s a mix of upcycled and thrifted plus industrial and contemporary style. Sounds likea hot mess, but I promise it comes together in the end lol.

And last but not least my oldest turned 3 in August! Loved every minute of just enjoying her enjoy her day. She’s grown so much and it’s bitter sweet, but I’m excited where she is and what lies ahead.

This was also the month that Chadwick Boseman passed and that was absolutely heart breaking to hear. It’s odd because it’s not like I knew him, but still, just a heavy time.

SEPTEMBER

September was a busy bee month for me. I discovered Facebook market place (the one social media I allowed myself to endeavor) and was selling stuff like crazy! It’s so nice to get rid of stuff!!! I feel cleaner, lighter.

September was the month I finally found a living room rug. Don’t judge me y’all, this is a milestone. I’ve been looking for a rug for 3 years!!! It deserves to be celebrated 😂.

This was also the month that I found a basically identical seagrass basket from West Elm at Hobby Lobby for half the price! Again, this was a huge win for me lol!

OCTOBER

October was another busy month. We have 3 birthdays, my nephew, mine, and my daughters all in a row plus me and hubby’s 8th anniversary so lots and lots of celebration!!

HBD to me at XOXO Dallas with my fave guy
Happy 1st Bday Jay bird!

Got my hair did for the first time as an adult from my gal Fran at DFW Beauty Studio 🙌🏾

Became a plant mom of 3 (Beck, Zee Zee, and Justus). *Beck 1 and 2 have since died RIP, but Zee and Justus are still holding up nicely ☺️.

Completed an up-cycle of an IKEA side table.

Found out I’m allergic to a particular sauce I got at World Market. My face swelled up like Will Smith in Hitch when he’s searching for Benadryl! Yikes!

Found a cabinet for my at home coffee/bar to upcycle! I painted it this chalky blue and added my mini fridge and Keurig.

Got my first pair of Jordans ever in life! And I’m in love, these are the Jordan One Biohacks and they are my favorite shoe in the whole world right now 🙌🏾

NOVEMBER

Officially became Members of our new church Pillar Church in East Side Fort Worth 🙌🏾.

Went to visit fam in Houston that we hadn’t seen in FOREVER!!

DECEMBER

Went to a wedding of some friends of ours. I didn’t realize how long it had been since being to a wedding until we were there and I was like “I haven’t been to a wedding in years”. It was wonderful to just be able to celebrate them.

Beck 1 died 😭My rubber plant.

JANUARY

Bought Beck 2…this one still ended up dying. I think maybe my kitchen table is NOT meant to house live plants 🤷🏾‍♀️.

Found a really great book called Forgotten Jesus by Robby Gallaty. It speaks about Jesus from His Jewish roots perspective. Very eye opening **I highly recommend**

Husbands bday is in Jan so I took him to Texas Motor Speedway to fulfill his need for speed. Ok honestly I was trying to “scare him straight” thinking if I got him to be driven really fast he might slow down with me in the car….didn’t work 😐.

They got up to 150/160 mph

FEBRUARY

I played Play Dough pizza with my kid for like a week straight 🤣

My husband treated me to a trip to my favorite store (Tory Burch) AND HE ACTUALLY SHOPPED WITH ME!!!! I found this fun little number and have been enjoying that new leather smell.

MARCH

This was the month I released my book Mama Braids and came back on social media. It was very emotional for me because all during this time I had been working on it behind the scenes with ups and downs and just a lot of anxiety. I’m glad it’s here…I may never write again 😅 JK.

So you’re all caught up. Either you’ve hung in with me til the end and read this entirely too long post or got bored and snuck out somewhere in the middle. I hope you at least opened the email and was like “Who emails at 7am in the morning??” 🙋🏾‍♀️Me…I do, because my kids make me be up that early 😂.

I’m actually up writing this the night before and scheduling it to go live at 7am in hopes of not feeling alone in my early up hours. I think that about does it for catching up. What y’all been up too? I’m nosey 🤣.

Case In Review: Keep It Real Real

Hello friends!! It has been a looooong while since I posted anything, let alone a post about Poshmark. Not because things haven’t been going on, but because I’ve been spread thin adjusting to two babies in the household 😝 Nevertheless, I wanted to share the latest case that got opened on me…..Y’ALL IT JUST GOT SERIOUS! I had an AUTHENTICITY case opened on me!!!! Never in a million years would I think I would be one of the Posher’s to go through that, yet here I am on the other side still alive and moving forward. Get ready, I’m about to spill ALL the tea on the details, lessons learned, and how I coped.

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My “I Don’t Want To Look Like A Mom” Mommy Tote

Being thrust into the mother of two world comes with certain…predictions. I drive an suv, I only wear yoga pants out of the house, I have a faint yet continual scent of animal crackers emitting from my person at all times lol. While some of these truly define me, I felt like when I was preparing for the new stage of motherhood, more thoughtfulness was needed when it came to the type of diaper bag I would be hauling around. 

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Birth Story: Amariah Jai

Amariah’s birth actually starts 4 days before she came. On Sunday October 13th, I began to get something called Prodromal Labor Contractions. What are those you ask? Nature’s cruel joke is the best way I can put it. Basically, they are all the strength of real contractions, however, they don’t dilate the cervix significantly or at all. Sounds fun right?

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Case In Review: Winning A Poshmark Case As A Seller

Hello fellow Poshers! I have an interesting topic I would like to get into today. Posh cases are always a hot topic, but from the seller side a lot of times they are a way of life. We often feel unfairly treated and wonder if there’s anything we can do to possibly win a case. There is and I would like to discuss that in this post. Hold on to your hats we are going all in!

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Little Sis 30th Super Mario Party

My youngest sister is a huge Nintendo fan. She’s always had the gaming systems from handhelds to tv hook ups. One thing that is always a big deal for her is the world of Mario and one of his favorite companions, Yoshi.

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Does Modeling Clothing For Poshmark Increase Sales?

One of my Poshmark friends asked me a question the other day, “Do you think modeling in your photos helps a lot?”. I responded to her with a yes, but the question sparked a desire to write out a more in depth answer. I’ve been asked this question before and I’d like to share why I feel modeling in photos might help increase sales. Of course this is all just my opinions and such, but I do hope you enjoy this post and find my insight helpful.

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